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Mama’s Baby Daddy’s Maybe: Questions of a fatherless Woman

In Letty's Corner on September 2, 2010 at 11:39 pm

Today a question came to me. When it comes to a woman how important is it to have a father? Does it not matter? If you had one would  things  have been better? Of course  for a man I believe having a father or father figure is important. Not saying that its impossible for a man to become a man but I believe as a little boy it’s good to have that role model to show them what it’s like to be a man as they grow up. But when it comes to women how important can having a father or father figure be? How big of a role does it play in her life?

Daddy's Girl

I think about my father, a man who I never knew or met , I just have a name and know what he looks like but only because of a picture. I think would my father have been a good father or would things had been about the same? Don’t get me wrong I love & appreciate my mother. But I can’t help but to wonder what it would have been like to have my fathers love, he would have been the first man in my life that started it all.What he would he have taught me and what he would have contributed to my understandings of love. Looking back over the years I noticed that I’ve dated and been intimate with guys that did more damage than good. Liars, cheaters, abusers(verbal,mental,& physical) guys that just had their way treating me according to how they saw fit. I let them, too afraid to be alone and not receiving love from a MAN. I think would it have been different if my father stuck around?To show me what love was like and how a man is supposed to treat a woman. Would he had been able to keep those guys away? You know the cliché Dad meets the boyfriend holds a conversation with him to see what his intentions are, feels out the guy and either says he approves or oh no,he’s not it. Would I have avoided a lot of heartache, would my choices of who I chose turned out better?

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