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A Modified Kimmaytube Method

In Natural Hair Goodies on September 24, 2010 at 2:58 am

So I’m sure that many of you natural hair chicas have heard of Kim Love of Kimmaytube on youtube and (her website). Well anywho she has this leave in conditioner concoction that I have adopted to suit my own needs which is what she has suggested. If you watch Kim you’ll learn very quickly that she knows her stuff and wants to share her knowledge with our natural hair community. You can find her on youtube at If your wondering what the ingredients are in my leave in its listed below.

SDV’s modified Kimmaytube method:
coconut oil, olive oil, aloe vera juice, kinky curly leave in conditioner, grape seed oil and lastly almond oil for scent.

Now surely that sounds like a lot of oils buts its a dash of each mixed into a bowl and applied after each washing. Try it out and let us know what you think.



little known fact

In Natural Hair Goodies on September 22, 2010 at 4:22 pm

Did you know? Its either a relaxer or color. Its never a good idea to do both to the hair at the same time, so either be natural with color or relaxed no color. A hair stylist confirmed this for me yesterday, color and relaxed hair is done all the time so obviously it can be done but the chances of one’s hair breaking off and the ends of the hair becoming more brittle are more likely than with natural hair and color. But as with anything, “anything is possible” if your not taking care of your hair be it natural or relaxed. Although many of us Afro American women indulge in “permed” hair and color most are not aware of the serious risk of the two together and commence to treating their as we’ve always done.
PSA: to my relaxed beauties please be sure to take good care of your hair more specifically those ends!
I used to think if I colored my hair now in its natural state that it would be pretty damaging, truth is now is the best time for me to add a bit of color so we’ll see what happens in the coming months 🙂


New US Dollar

In sdv on the world on September 18, 2010 at 11:16 pm

Today I was o n yahoo and saw that there are talks of changing the face of the American currency. In my opinion it’s about time our money got a face lift :), having traveled in Europe and seeing the different type of currency in the world I would like to hold something a little different in my pocket too!

Dollar Redesign Project


Curvy Girl Fab

In Fashion, Makeup and All That Jazz on September 15, 2010 at 3:42 pm

Today I was perusing, you know the site for the thick chicks of the world and I came across a look that I think translates across sizes.

Military Pocket Dress

Now this particular image is not of the one I saw on Torrid’s site but it’s pretty similar, the Torrid dress is strapless and black, go check it out and tell me what you think. Torrid’s Military Pocket Dress this dress with a nice simple jacket and some heels would be awesome. Thoughts??


Henna for African American Hair

In Natural Hair Goodies on September 15, 2010 at 3:03 pm

Jamila Henna

The natural hair care experiments have begun, again, 🙂 I’ve recently done a henna treatment my intent was to color my hair with the henna but there wasn’t much of a change. It was more like a super deep conditioner which I didn’t mind because I recently took some Senegalese twist out so I think I might continue to use henna as a super deep conditioner at least every six weeks. And I’ll keep you guys posted on the benefits in the future. But I will link you to The Coil Review’s article on henna.

A Blast From The Past


Fashion on Fire

In Fashion, Makeup and All That Jazz on September 12, 2010 at 4:24 am

So this is one of the latest from Christian Louboutin’s fall collection at Neiman Marcus…Gorgeous right?? Too bad they don’t make this boot wide enough to fit my calves 😦 but I’m not too sad about it if I could wear them I damn sure can’t afford them right now lol! Price check below ….

Simple Botta Boot $1295.00 @ Neiman Marcus

Finding Balance

In sdv on the world on September 11, 2010 at 4:16 am

so tired of this rope

I know I always start each entry with a question but what I’ve come to realize in the past few days is that, that’s how I simplify and understand my world. Surely I’ve said that some where on this site before but getting to the point. Have you ever been in a place where you felt like your walking a tight rope. Well that’s where I am right now, my inner self wants to throw caution in the wind and take that leap of faith. After all my spirit lives in leaps of faith and right now its feeling a bit stifled because my outer self is afraid to make the much needed and wanted changes. The question I’ve been asking for a while now is, when is the right time to do anything? I don’t know anymore. I’ve always believed in me and that no matter what I chose or do, things will come together in the right order and time but now I’m teetering back and fourth on what to do and when to do it. Decisions, decisions, they never make life uncomplicated and right now I could use an uncomplicated solution. At what point do I find, have and keep some sense of balance?


Vision Boards

In sdv on the world on September 3, 2010 at 2:34 pm

Have you ever considered making a vision board and if so what was the out come for you? I’ve had my board for a few years now when I first put it together I really put some time and thought into the things I wanted. At that time the main thing I was concerned about was where I was going and what I truly wanted to do with my life. Looking back now I don’t believe I answered every question but I figured out a general direction. I wanted to finally graduate from college and go into graduate school, then that changed to my wanting to work for myself. So here I am today working towards graduation and looking into how to go about starting my business. My first step towards being an entrepreneur was this site so I guess that’s some progress right?

What’s on your vision board? Have you made one and what do you what for your life?


Mama’s Baby Daddy’s Maybe: Questions of a fatherless Woman

In Letty's Corner on September 2, 2010 at 11:39 pm

Today a question came to me. When it comes to a woman how important is it to have a father? Does it not matter? If you had one would  things  have been better? Of course  for a man I believe having a father or father figure is important. Not saying that its impossible for a man to become a man but I believe as a little boy it’s good to have that role model to show them what it’s like to be a man as they grow up. But when it comes to women how important can having a father or father figure be? How big of a role does it play in her life?

Daddy's Girl

I think about my father, a man who I never knew or met , I just have a name and know what he looks like but only because of a picture. I think would my father have been a good father or would things had been about the same? Don’t get me wrong I love & appreciate my mother. But I can’t help but to wonder what it would have been like to have my fathers love, he would have been the first man in my life that started it all.What he would he have taught me and what he would have contributed to my understandings of love. Looking back over the years I noticed that I’ve dated and been intimate with guys that did more damage than good. Liars, cheaters, abusers(verbal,mental,& physical) guys that just had their way treating me according to how they saw fit. I let them, too afraid to be alone and not receiving love from a MAN. I think would it have been different if my father stuck around?To show me what love was like and how a man is supposed to treat a woman. Would he had been able to keep those guys away? You know the cliché Dad meets the boyfriend holds a conversation with him to see what his intentions are, feels out the guy and either says he approves or oh no,he’s not it. Would I have avoided a lot of heartache, would my choices of who I chose turned out better?

Love & Rockets


Accepting The Realities of Your Relationship

In dating impaired on September 2, 2010 at 11:18 pm

Do you ever find yourself consumed with thoughts about the things you hate about your relationship? Today I came to that realization, I find myself preaching to friends and family members all the time about learning to accept someone or a situation for what it is but yet here I am in this dating relationship doing the exact thing I tell others not to. Attempting to force a square into a round hole, dumb I know but just can’t help myself. I don’t know what it is about “us” humans, we can tell everyone else how something should be done but when it pertains to our own lives we’re constantly screwing things up. I know for myself that’s been the story of my life, even now I’m sitting here laughing and shaking my head at how foolish I’ve been for a few months now.

I’ve been dating this pretty cool individual for a few months now and there is this one thing going on that annoys the crap out of me. Truth be told it’s not a constant issue although it happens way more than I would like. I have this thing with electronic communication, if I text you I expect to get a text back within a reasonable amount of time and when I don’t it irks the crap out of me. In my mind it literally takes 2.5 seconds to respond to a text message and in today’s world we send and receive text messages all day long and hell some of us could probably do it in our sleep. So I don’t understand why when I text him he doesn’t just text me right back then and there. It’s like pulling teeth with him sometimes, now I understand that there will be times when he’s unable to do so because he is a fairly busy man but my goodness 2.5 seconds is nothing, read what I’ve sent and respond and be done with it, right?? Most of my female friends agree with me on that but some of my male friends are like “well maybe he’s just not that type of dude” which blows my mind because again in my mind it takes 2.5 seconds to respond to a text so how could he not be that type of dude and further more what the hell does that type of dude mean? More questions that don’t have answers ugh!

Textual communicating

Learning to except someone for who they are is not always the easiest task but I am trying or at least now I am trying harder to do so. So what he doesn’t always text me right back, no big deal right? Well as long as it is not a consistent habit, trying not to sweat it is going to be a test for me but I figure if I make the effort he’ll make an effort to do other things I ask.

COMPROMISE sometimes we need to embody the change we want.


P.S~ Yes Sleepy I’m talking about you lol Smooches